What I would say to my younger self:
You are smarter and braver than you think!
Just because someone says it doesn’t make it true.
Your mom is fighting her own battle – don’t take it personally!
Being adopted is an AMAZING thing!
Your Heavenly Father loves you and that counts for a lot!
Dig into God’s Word and cling to His promises!
Pray without ceasing!
Ignore the critics – stand tall and enjoy every second of high school!
Do not date that boy in high school – he is insecure and mean.
You and Kim will stay friends way beyond high school – embrace her and listen to her more!
Eat healthy and keep exercising! Exercise for your heart health – not to be skinny!
What people say about you does not matter – what you think of you does. Be confident!
Trust your gut and say “NO” more! No is a complete sentence!
(Link to video by Mercy Me)After reading the above thoughts, I shared my list as part of a Periscope Broadcast today. One thing I love about reading this advice to my younger self is that it does not make me feel bad about myself or fill me with regret. I am inspired that God has brought me so far. He loves me so much that He did not leave me as the insecure, wounded, and lost teenager that I was back in high school. And this list reminds me that God has been answering a long time prayer request that I have been praying and I am becoming the strong woman I had always dreamt I would be. I highly recommend you see this as a helpful exercise and you do the same thing. Create a list of things you would say to your younger self and save it! If you would like, please leave a couple of the items you would put on your list in the comments below. I would love to read them!!!
Find Your Purpose
Create Your Life’s Mission Statement
Stay in Your LaneFind Your Purpose: We have all been created with a purpose. God did not just create us to walk aimlessly about here on earth. Of course, we read many scriptures about our collective purpose like “loving thy neighbor”, “baptize them and make them disciples”, “train up a child in the way they should go”, etc. This is our collective purpose. I also believe that since we serve a God of diversity, that He has an individual plan for each one of us. I have no doubt that God created my husband to be a Marine. His uncle is a Marine and several of Bill’s nephews are Marines. Bill was a perfect candidate minus his size – which he made up for in tenacity. God used the Marine Corps to bring Bill and I together and Bill became a follower of Jesus a couple years after we were married. And after 29 years and 6 days of active service, Bill continues to hear from Marines who were impacted by Bill’s influence. He was not only created to serve his country in this prestigious way but he was created to impact the lives of other men and women. And once he married me, my purpose became clear as well. Being a Marine family is not easy and we got to walk with many singles, geo-bachelors, and families through the rocky terrain of active duty life and many have stayed our friends all these years later. And, as we loved on military families, they loved on us right back. We all were full-filling God’s purpose for us. God used Bill’s passion for the Marine Corps to fulfill His purpose for His life. And He continues to use both of us even while Bill is now retired from the Marine Corps. What are you passionate about? That just may be your purpose. Create a Life’s Mission Statement: This is a way to narrow down what your purpose is and then make decisions and set goals based on that statement. Check here for more info on Mission Statements. Stay In Your Lane is a concept I read in Christine Caine’s book “Unstoppable”. God has a lane for each of us to run in and all we have to do is look ahead and run in it. Don’t get distracted by what is going on around you. Don’t get distracted by comparing your life and journey with the “runners” next to you. We are all running the same race – just in different lanes. We look different on purpose. We have different gifts on purpose. We were each created differently to impact this world in a positive way!!!
Do you know your purpose? Do you have a personal mission statement?
Please share your answers and thoughts in the comments!
Don’t Dwell On Unhappy Things!This tip was inspired by a great quote I have used before:
“Every moment you get is a gift.
Spend it on things that matter!
Don’t spend it by dwelling on unhappy things.”
–Author UnknownThis quote gives us the reality check we need sometimes – albeit a dramatic reality check. There are so many people who would give anything to get another minute, moment or day with their loved one who is no longer with them here on earth, while we are complaining because our “peeps” didn’t clean up their room or they didn’t take out the trash! I call this dwelling on the dippy dailies. Those chores or things we have to do almost on a daily basis that can get cumbersome at times and cause us to be cranky. However, how we deal with these everyday nuisances is key to seeing every moment as a gift! I am not saying that kids should not be held accountable for doing chores or that spouses shouldn’t help out around the house. The challenge I am talking about is to not dwell on the negative things that we seem to see more of on a daily basis than the positive stuff. And we only see more of the negative because that is where we are focusing. We can also find ourselves grumpy at an acquaintance or friend for not returning a call or when someone doesn’t say hi to us at church. Or, worse, when someone close really hurts us. Whether it’s intentional or not, people will hurt us. People will disappoint us. It’s in how we react, or not react, that is important. This is why Jesus is so BIG on grace. He extends it to us and wants us to do the same for those in our sphere of influence. We have to remember that we are all human. We all have bad moments but that doesn’t make us bad people. Or bad friends. Or bad spouses. It just means, in our flesh, we make poor choices at times and others are affected by those poor choices. All this talk about showing grace, and not dwelling on the negative, reminds me of another great quote by one of my favorite Periscope Broadcasters (find him on Periscope @SrPedrog1) – we call him Pastor P. He shared this quote on his personal Facebook page and I turned it into a meme: I would like to add that we should also not hold others hostage by their past or the past things they have done to us. Please hear my heart – I am not talking about real abuses here. I am talking about the dippy dailies that we can find ourselves dwelling on if we are not careful. In my broadcast I also shared this reminder in God’s Word:
“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.”
Proverbs 17:9How are you spending your moments as gifts versus dwelling on unhappy things?