Don’t Dwell On Unhappy Things!This tip was inspired by a great quote I have used before:
“Every moment you get is a gift.
Spend it on things that matter!
Don’t spend it by dwelling on unhappy things.”
–Author UnknownThis quote gives us the reality check we need sometimes – albeit a dramatic reality check. There are so many people who would give anything to get another minute, moment or day with their loved one who is no longer with them here on earth, while we are complaining because our “peeps” didn’t clean up their room or they didn’t take out the trash! I call this dwelling on the dippy dailies. Those chores or things we have to do almost on a daily basis that can get cumbersome at times and cause us to be cranky. However, how we deal with these everyday nuisances is key to seeing every moment as a gift! I am not saying that kids should not be held accountable for doing chores or that spouses shouldn’t help out around the house. The challenge I am talking about is to not dwell on the negative things that we seem to see more of on a daily basis than the positive stuff. And we only see more of the negative because that is where we are focusing. We can also find ourselves grumpy at an acquaintance or friend for not returning a call or when someone doesn’t say hi to us at church. Or, worse, when someone close really hurts us. Whether it’s intentional or not, people will hurt us. People will disappoint us. It’s in how we react, or not react, that is important. This is why Jesus is so BIG on grace. He extends it to us and wants us to do the same for those in our sphere of influence. We have to remember that we are all human. We all have bad moments but that doesn’t make us bad people. Or bad friends. Or bad spouses. It just means, in our flesh, we make poor choices at times and others are affected by those poor choices. All this talk about showing grace, and not dwelling on the negative, reminds me of another great quote by one of my favorite Periscope Broadcasters (find him on Periscope @SrPedrog1) – we call him Pastor P. He shared this quote on his personal Facebook page and I turned it into a meme: I would like to add that we should also not hold others hostage by their past or the past things they have done to us. Please hear my heart – I am not talking about real abuses here. I am talking about the dippy dailies that we can find ourselves dwelling on if we are not careful. In my broadcast I also shared this reminder in God’s Word:
“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.”
Proverbs 17:9How are you spending your moments as gifts versus dwelling on unhappy things?